Online Dating – The 5 Biggest Mistakes People Are Making And Striking Out

Gentlemen, STOP your engines! Take a deep breath and think about it for a second! What was the first thing you learned back in high school. You know, when girls first started looking good to you. When they stopped being ICCKKY! Play it cool. Don’t seem desperate, and in a way make her wonder: Is he interested in me? Which brings us to our number 1 mistake.

1- Whatever you do, don’t come off desperate. 9 out of the 10 emails I get have these dreaded phrases in them “Please” “I’d give anything to….” “Oh my god I can’t believe” “What will it take” Any guy that seems desperate makes a gal wonder. “Hmm.. Why is this lad having such a hard time meeting women? The famous ” I wonder what’s wrong with him” There must be something wrong with him. Oh well, on to the next guy. DON’T COME OFF DESPERATE!! It’s a huge turn off!

Have you ever tried walking up to a girl in a bar, club or even on the street and pulled your pants down? Of course not. You wouldn’t be reading this. You’d be in prison doing 2-4 for indecent exposure. You know what I’m getting at! Some of you have tried this tactic and no matter how big and beautiful it may be, you struck out! Didn’t you!? The famous number 2..

2- Don’t show ‘em your dingaling prematurely. I once posted an ad in the casual encounters section of Craigslist. The things I saw!! The horror! For example “Hi beautiful, if you like what you see, email me.” “Bet you haven’t seen one this big ever in your life” or the famous “Look how excited your picture made me” Now don’t get me wrong, it’s exactly what I was searching for posting in that section. But you see, women are looking for men. We’re interested in meeting YOU not it. If all we wanted was a weewee, we’d buy one at our local adult erotic shop and avoid the headaches. It’s an encounter with someone new we’re looking for. The excitement of the unknown. Make us want it. Don’t just hand it to us on a platter. We want to work for it a little. And don’t forget the obvious fact that with everything we’ve heard on the news, the stories of women getting raped and killed, we’re a little afraid to meet the men that come off as sexual predators. So please, KEEP IT IN YOUR PANTS UNTIL INSTRUCTED TO DO OTHERWISE!

So you’ve signed up on a random date site. You’ve put in your alias, your gender, and what you’re looking for. And now you avoid filling in the rest. Thinking that your alias “looking4mate72″ says it all and you don’t need to write anything else about yourself. Right? Did it work? No, it didn’t. Of course not. Don’t overlook number 3.

3- Tell us how interesting you are. If there’s nothing interesting about you, how can you get our interest? Make sense? Out of the 400 words you can enter in the field you chose to write “Hello, I’m looking for sex” well good for you, so is everyone else on here but at least they’re making an effort to attract the women. If you can’t think of anything interesting about yourself, chances are we won’t find anything either. These are the guys that go around saying “You know these dating sites are full of it. There’s no women, it’s all a scam. Dating sites are filled with real women dying to meet interesting dudes. There just don’t seem to be enough of them. Be interesting, and if you’re not, make something up! Make some sort of effort. With today’s technology we’ve been spoiled a little. But when it comes to meeting women, you have to spend a little time and energy. That’s the beauty. But if you can’t grasp this, don’t worry, I’m sure you’ll be able to download some beautiful woman on some torrent site in no time. We’re almost there. In the meantime…! keep…. you know.

Uploading your mug shot will probably not get too much attention from the sane women. You know the ones I’m talking about. No smile. The guy is starring into his webcam. You’re not sure if you’re still at the dating site or you accidentally clicked into the FBI’s most wanted list. A picture says a thousand words, make them good words.. number 4.

4- When it’s time to upload your pictures, don’t just turn on your cam and snap away. These have to be the dullest pictures I see. (I’d rather see their johnson, #2). Upload some real photos. A picture of you with your dog, you with friends, you at the beach. Something interesting! Somewhere you’ve been, something you’ve done. You, staring into your webcam, is not interesting at all. No one is going to sit there and go through 34 pictures you just took with your webcam in the dark. Creepy! You need to show us a side of you that’s going to grab our attention! Attraction is what it’s all about. NO MORE WEBCAM SHOTS!

Last but not least.. You’re going to hate this one I promise. But it’s as important or more important than the first 4… Pick a site you like, and become a member.

5- If you’re not willing to pay a few bucks a month to be a member, chances are I’m picking up the bill at the restaurant, bar, club, hotel or motel. The truth is, women rarely browse profiles of the free members that logged in once or twice. We like a little stability. We want to meet someone who’s been verified by the site. Avoids us a lot of trouble. What you’re telling women is; You’re not cheap, You’re a verified user, It’s safe to come in contact with you, you’re serious about meeting someone and again YOU’RE NOT CHEAP! If you can’t afford the membership, how are you going to meet up with me? Where will we be going? You can continue posting on those free classifieds “Anyone want me to pick her up with my car and go at it?” all you want, but you’ll be spending lots of lonely nights. And if it does work, I don’t want to see the gal that responds to that ad.

In conclusion, meeting women online is not that different from meeting women offline. Always remember that these are the same women you see in your everyday life. The difference is, it’s a lot easier to break the ice. So, why are you not succeeding at making that encounter? Is it because there are no women online? Of course not. There are as many women online as there are men. Avoiding these 5 deadly mistakes will increase your chances dramatically. Take advantage of the fact that most men are making these mistakes. There are plenty of fish in the E-SEA. Just remember to use the right bait. I’m currently on 3 dating sites myself. There are lots of single girls still looking for someone interesting to hook up with. I’m one of them. So please, if you come across me, don’t whip it out in my face, unless I ask you to!

Vintage Adult Comics

As how they are obviously referred to, vintage adult comics are a reflection of ancient era or golden times. These are comics released in the 13th and 14th century and these days, they are difficult to get hold of. Other collectors aren’t just limiting themselves to the 1940-50′s collections, though. They follow until the 1970 releases of these comics.

Hundreds of comics were circulated in the golden age of magazines and literature. These materials were published using old kinds of papers. Vintage, as we hear of it, sounds valuable and rare. And yes, it definitely is rare to find some collections of books, magazines, comics or anything done five to seven decades ago.

The young adolescent and adult groups have let loose their inhibitions of browsing over these vintage adult comics that flaunt boldness, sexiness, sophistication and seventh heaven. The erotic side of life is presented in its creatively enticing manner through sexy pictures of women and passionate scenarios of couples in love and lust. There is no denying that men are continuous followers of these kinds of readable stuff. Sensual women are even getting open-minded to explore the so-called hobby but rarely do they declare such actuation.

As vintage comics like Batman, Flash Gordon, Superman, Green Lantern and Spiderman gained popularity back then, the emergence of vintage adult comics followed through their successes. Instead of heroic and funny themes, love and passion are usual concepts of the adult category of magazines and comics, that’s why they are for adults only. Thought not many people recognize it, comics are a serious business, too, just like movies, bars, Internet porn, among others.

Since the 1970′s, the worth of vintage adult comics has consistently multiplied due to their huge demand from investors and collectors. If you collect any of these vintage stuffs, you are likely to earn a good bit of dollars as they are usually appraised as valuable. It seems like a standard notion that if you own something vintage, you can benefit largely.

The approach employed in vintage adult comics is dependent on culture and lifestyle of a certain country it is being released. There are those that are too erotic that may not be appreciated by some. Basically, they’re identified to be of European, Japanese and American themes.

Vintage adult comics are usually of erotic conceptions and graphics, sometimes identified as artistic outputs of pornography. The sexuality of both men and women in the same setting is depicted as real as it can be to educate and stimulate the senses of the readers. Sensuality in a human being is but normal as long as it is done within grounds of matrimony. However, the world has accepted reality that bites, thus there isn’t any critical judgment aimed to those enjoying the art of making love out of marriage.

Erotic Costumes – How to Find the Best Erotic Costumes For Halloween This Year

Lots of women are looking to buy erotic costumes for Halloween these days. The variety of sexy Halloween costumes available has exploded in the last few years due to the demand that has arisen for them. So now it is easy to find a costume that you both love and will feel super-hot in.

There are many stores that carry erotic costumes for women, but some are better than others. When you are shopping, see if you can find some of the brands that people have written good reviews about online.

If you are going to spend money on erotic costumes, you definitely want to get something that is going to last. Sexy Halloween costumes can be reused if they are of a good quality and taken care of. You can wear them for another Halloween, or you can wear them around the house if you are in the mood for some naughty games.

No matter what sexy Halloween costumes you are picturing, you can probably find something that is at least close to what you want. The options you have are as wide as any other type of costume now. Career costumes are always popular, such as policewomen and nurses. Other popular erotic costumes for women include sports-themed outfits and “bug” outfits such as ladybugs, bees, and spiders.

While many of these costumes come with everything you need, you can always buy more accessories for them to make them even more unique. Hats, wands, wings, and wigs can be bought at just about any costume store. You should also find an awesome sexy pair of shoes to put with your outfit.

One of the major keys to getting the perfect erotic costume is to start shopping early. This way you can hit a few different stores and figure out what you really want without being worried the perfect costume will be gone by the time you get back. This Halloween, get something sexy and knock everyone off their feet!

Science Supports the Need for Casual Sex Flirting

Casual sex movies make it all seem so easy. Two people meet up at a bar, share a quick drink, and then are seen passionately bouncing off hallway walls as they try to get each other’s clothes off. But is it really all so simple? And if it is, then why aren’t all bar room hallways bursting at the seams with horny hookups? The answer is…they’re not and the science behind attraction and a woman’s desire for casual sex gives a little insight into why.

In several studies, the original one conducted in 1989 and a follow-up one conducted more recently, both men and women were asked if they would have casual sex with a platonic friend – a friends with benefits arrangement – or if they would have casual sex with a complete stranger. In both studies it showed that men were more likely to agree to a quickie than their female counterpart. So if you are a man and want to get a more favorable response to the question, “Will you go to bed with me?” there are few basic things that you need to understand about the women who are most likely to say yes.

Whether you meet a potential partner through an adult online dating site, through a friend, or in a pub, the basics of getting that person to agree to a one night stand or no strings attached relationship include a little flirting. Yes, even with casual sex you need a little flirting.

Science has suggested two theories explaining what women look for. The first theory reaches back to our caveman roots and the evolutionary reasons for having sex – survival of the species. In this explanation the woman needs to be choosy about their hook up mate since they expect them to stick around to help change diapers and buy formula. They want a man they can depend on.

The second theory is one that we can better get our minds around when talking about casual sex and that is the Pleasure Theory. We are all hardwired to pursue pleasure. This is the type of wiring that you guys need to stand up and take notice of. Yes, woman will be more likely to say yes to a casual relationship when they perceive that they are going to get a little pleasure from it…or more likely, a lot of pleasure. Women want to orgasm and they will be more willing to give it a shot with a guy (or girl) that is likely to provide it.

So let’s put the two theories together and create a better mousetrap. Guys, if you want casual sex then you need to convince a woman that they can depend on you to give them an orgasm!

How is this done? Well, to discover that you may just want to follow me and get some advice on some good old fashioned flirting and seduction. That is something that never goes out of style no matter if it’s casual sex or true love sex that you are after.

Erotic Leather Lingerie

When one thinks of leather lingerie, erotic and sensuous come to mind. This is the time-born concept that sells all women’s lingerie; this is the time born concept that plays on all adult movies and adult magazines; this is in fact the time born concept that every woman and man is instilled with from the moment of puberty.

Leather lingerie is not like any other lingerie. It is not the traditional type of lingerie that would simply compliment a woman’s body figure or make her feel beautiful and sensuous like only a woman could feel. It is instead a mischievous and playful bedroom attire; it is meant to both stimulate and tease. And it certainly is not the type of lingerie that anyone would buy or wear the sole intention of going to sleep!

It takes a woman who is confident of herself and appreciative of her own body to wear any type of lingerie. It is probably the greatest test for a woman however, to wear it. This is because you cannot hide yourself or be the demure woman in leather lingerie; it is the only type of lingerie that really ‘showcases’ a woman’s body. This type lingerie, unlike other lingerie, releases all inhibitions and repressed sexualities. It brings out a side of most adults that are often suppressed or hidden from even the ones we hold dearest to us. It therefore takes a woman who is sure of her own self to wear leather lingerie.

But in addition to being confident of her own self, the woman who chooses to wear leather linger must also be fully confident about her relationship, or at least come to an agreement with both parties involved. A woman often cannot and will not release her greatest fears to her partner until she is fully comfortable in his presence. But even today is a time that is filled with much sexual awareness and acceptance of our individual sexualities, we still often find women who are not secure enough in their own skins to be the creative and stimulating woman that most men fantasize about; and leather lingerie is most obviously the starting point and ending point of all erotic fantasies among both men and women (whether or not they admit it is another story to tell).

Leather lingerie could also come in a variety of styles for a variety of shapes (as with any other type of clothing). Some of the more common ones include bustiers for women who are top heavy and wish enhance the appeal, corsets which can pull the waistline in to add definition to most lacking figures, teddies and thongs for the woman who is bottom heavy and wishes to emphasis the point, and even two-piece sets and various bound wears (sometimes included within the teddy line) for the adventurous and daring. Which do you think would suit you best.

Erotic Mind Control Techniques To Spice Up Your Bedroom Life

Mind control is basically influencing a subject through your power of suggestion. You suggest in such a manner that allows you to play the influential role and make the other person comply. The subject understands that you’re in control and acts in accordance with your wishes. We’ve heard of it being used in different fields such as medicine and even entertainment. But there is one for your personal lives at home, in your bedroom. It’s known as erotic mind control.

Erotic mind control is basically used to increase arousal in your partner and reduce any inhibitions he/she may have. By using this technique properly, your partner, who will be the subject of your control tactics, will surrender themselves to your dominance for sexual pleasure and in exchange of emotions. This technique can go so far as to making your partner feel that you are dominant enough to control their movements, their thoughts. In fact, it can increase sexual pleasure in your bedroom by freeing your partner from any inhibitions and allowing them to transform their personality into someone who enjoys pleasure to the maximum!

For instance, some of the ways in which women influence their male partners to show them that they are interested is by playing with their hair, licking their lips and even puffing their chests. Most men may be unaware that women are doing this on purpose, but it is some kind of erotic mind controlling technique since it grabs your attention. This makes you respond to her needs and desires.

Such actions can also change your sexual fantasies and make you submit to your partner’s fantasies while even enjoying the experience.

Women are not the only ones who can use erotic mind control to influence their partner. Men can do a number of things as well. They can puff up their chests, check out their clothes, rub against their partners arms gently, stare until they are caught staring, looking deeply enough into their partners eyes to pull them into a kiss. These are all techniques that are used by men for erotic mind control.

This mind control technique can be so influential in bed that it can help improve your climax to a great extent. Of course people in relationships need to have a good sexual relationship with their partners as well. So when things don’t come naturally to you, erotic mind control is something that you resort to.

This mind control technique is a fetish for many adults in relationships. It’s always necessary to explore your sexual desires just as you should explore different possibilities in your daily lives. When you resort to using mind control in your bedroom, it’s mostly common sense that you will need to use. Learn to understand your partners comfort zone and try to understand their body language. Keeping them comfortable is much more important than learning their body language. It is because once someone is comfortable you can influence them to intensify any sexual experiences you have in bed.

So You’re Shy About Writing That Erotic Scene?

That’s totally understandable. Just because you may be indulging in it yourself doesn’t mean that you’re comfortable writing about it. Most people aren’t, and it’s a problem that even long established writers sometimes have to contend with. It’s difficult to make public something that you believe should remain private, but there’s no reason to be afraid of writing erotic content. It is possible to stay within your own comfort zone and still create a memorable scene. If you’re looking for advice on creating pornographic material, then this article is not for you, as such work is often not burdened by the intricacies of an elaborate plot or a need for character development.

The first thing you need to take into consideration when writing erotic content is whether or not it’s actually necessary to your storyline. Many successful titles have practically no erotic content whatsoever, while others stop just shy of showing their characters in a sexual light. However, depending on the type of story you’re working on, your readers might expect at least one erotic scene and be quite disappointed should it not be there. A breezy romance can get away with being PG-13, but no one’s going to believe in a femme fatale who doesn’t seduce anyone.

At the same time, it’s important to not just throw something in there out of the blue. You may end up subjecting your readers to their own form of creative whiplash, and you won’t be marketing your ability to come up with a cohesive storyline very well either. Once you make the decision to include erotic content in your work, you have to commit to making it believable. That’s what will draw readers in and allow them to experience it along with your characters. You need to have a proper build up based on some degree of sexual tension and attraction.

Alright, so you’ve made it clear that your characters are attracted to each other and now it’s time for the main event. How far do you go? That’s up to how far you’re willing to potentially extend yourself out of your comfort zone, but it’s important not to leave anything half done. Your readers may end up feeling cheated if they’ve psyched themselves up that this is finally going to happen. You have a chance to make your characters real as a sexual encounter is perfect for bringing out vulnerabilities and emotions. Draw from your personal experiences. What do you think is tasteful? What would you like to read? You’ve created the characters. You’re in the best position to determine how they would do whatever they’re doing.

Be careful though. If you’re writing for an adult magazine then you can be as graphic as you’d like. If not, then try to avoid words and phrases that are likely to leave the majority of your readers feeling squeamish. As far as possible, use the appropriate names for body parts etc. as some alternatives can run the risk of being offensive. You may not think it but an extensive vocabulary is actually a plus when it comes to writing erotic content. It can be crucial in steering you away from the ‘over used cliches’ pitfall that plagues many a romance writer. For example, unless they’re planning on tossing a piano through the window, there shouldn’t be any talk of anything ‘heaving’.

Remember, once you’ve thrown a sexual light on your characters, you can’t undo it. In order to keep that sense of reality, your characters will have to deal with the consequences of their actions. So what are the key points of writing erotic content?

Decide if it’s necessary.

Make sure you have a proper build up.

Pay attention to the scenery, but don’t spend pages and pages describing it.

Don’t spend pages and pages on the scene either or your readers will be bored, not excited.

Keep your characters in character.

Write what you know (or else do a ton of research)

Tasteful is always better than down and dirty (unless that’s what you’re going for)

Stay away from cliches like ‘heaving bosoms’.

Tidy up any loose ends.

Have fun.

That’s right, have fun with it. You’re writing about something that should be pleasurable. There’s no reason why you shouldn’t enjoy it too. No one’s saying that you need to go beyond what you’re comfortable with, but there’s no reason to let your shyness hold you back either. Take a look at some of the works by your favourite authors and see how they went about creating their erotic content. That can be a great starting point for you to come up with your own scenes.

Why Do I Read Erotic Stories?

Some of us have been nurtured to have a room of our own away from the private room and dangerous-to-the-ear sounds that our parents’ room emit. If it doesn’t bother you to imagine your parents doing the deed – well, I do. Some of you may have been curious what has been happening to the other room that you are so tempted to peek. Not to spy on your folks, of course! But admit it, once in your libido-driven days, you gave in to the opportunity of peeking what your roommate was enjoying that night.

Wise people say: “curiosity kills the cat.” Well, we don’t want to get killed nor we are cats! As adults, we have the propensity to compare our romancing skills with colleagues, associates and peers. At your legal age, the ethical professional person that you are, it would be a shame to catch you to be a peeping Tom.

Reading online erotic stories are just the solution. You may end up wondering if what you have read is true but nevertheless, it eliminates the danger of you being caught peeping your room mate’s night-time sack activities. We cannot also discount the fact that we discover things that are possible to do and well, expect that the next time you had the opportunity, you will eventually try to do the same, right?

By reading these type of stories, our brain is stimulated to develop neurons. It enhances our imagination and triggers our dopamine receptors. Ok…That’s a technical term. Dopamine are brain chemicals that gives you that good feeling. Yes. The same feeling you felt when you released all that pent-up heat that you have collected that week. It is also the same feeling that is evoked when you light up that first cigarette in the morning or drink that fresh brewed coffee. Reading erotic stories are like reading porn magazines without actually buying them. Isn’t that a good thing? You save up on your money, and still get sexually energized from the story you have read.

You also get new ideas that can make your night-time or romancing activities bloom, or let’s just say, be productive! What an exciting way to get your hormones raging! By simply reading one story, you may want to have the love of your life beside you and that adds spice to the relationship. Your mate will always be wondering where you get your bedroom skills, especially when you have projected to be the busy, serious type of person that you are.

Sex Instructional Videos – Watch and Learn!

Although it’s evident that people nowadays are educated in the matter of sex, there are still those who need a little bit of help in that department. Whether you’re just starting out to become sexually active, or you’re in a relationship with a dwindling sex life, sex instructional videos may just be the thing you need. Sex can become quite a sensual and pleasurable activity, as long as you know exactly what you’re doing and why you’re doing it. Let sex instructional videos teach you a thing or two, and who knows? You might just discover as whole new side to you.

Sex instructional videos are great as it can help you spice up your bedroom routine with your lover. With different tips and techniques that you can learn from these videos, you’ll be able to become a better sexual partner. These videos can also help you let go of your inhibitions and your partner’s as well and teach you to be more confident in your own skin, no matter what body type you have. And because it’s highly recommended that you watch sex instructional videos with your lover, it can also possibly help strengthen the relationship.

You may be thinking, what makes sex instructional vids any different from porn videos? Though both videos will show people having sexual intercourse, you’ll actually learn something from instructional videos as it usually includes a narrative or a step by step guide. Whereas sex instructional videos aim to give you a better understanding of your body and how you can work it during sex, porn on the other hand will just show people having sex. If you think that sex is just like what you’ve seen on porn movies, you’ll be surprised to know that there is more to it than just the act itself. There’s foreplay, there’s romance and there are techniques that can help you make the whole act a mind blowing experience.

If you’re interested to know how you can your hands on sex instructional videos, you have a few choices. Depending on where you live and how your culture perceives sex, you might find it really easy or a bit challenging to acquire these videos. If you have an adult bookstore or a sex shop in your community, you can start your search there. You can also check stores that sell movies and DVDs and look for the adult section.

You can also look for online sites that sell sex instructional vids if you want to shop in the comforts of your own home. Although you’ll find a wide selection of different titles and types online, do take your time in choosing a video for you. Make sure that you check the production company and the description thoroughly if you don’t want to end up with cheap porn that was packaged as an instructional video. Look up reviews on which titles would be best suited for you. Don’t forget to ask your lover’s opinion on which titles to get so that you can come to a mutual agreement on what type of instructional video would best benefit you both.

Erotic Adult Lingerie For Women

Often women are so immersed in their outward appearance that they start neglecting what is within. This is the case with many of us women, who are interested in beautifying themselves from the very core, always pay special attention to their choice of under garments. Adult lingerie always had a great role to play in women’s lives.

Adult lingerie comes in a wide variety of sizes and shape. So whether you are a skinny sexy lass or a plus size with alluring curves you can easily choose your adult lingerie from this wide range of sizes. They also offer you to choose from a variety of designs and cuts.

Whereas some stick to your body like a wet swim suit, some may drape around your curves smoothly like a piece of cloth. Some of them are designed especially for special dresses to be worn by you in different occasions. For example you should wear a strapless bra with an off shoulder dress and similarly. Women of today know very well how important it is to match the under wear with your dress.

It is not just the color but also the design and cut of the dress that determine the kind of under wear that should be worn with it in order to look hot and sexy. The wrong underwear can ruin your effort of dressing up completely! So make sure you pick the right adult lingerie when you wear something out of the ordinary.

However, then you wear adult lingerie, you should be able to carry it out with perfect ease and confidence. If you are shy and uncomfortable wearing it, the lingerie alone can not make you the hot babe. But if you have the figure and are proud of it, wearing adult lingerie will only enhance the eroticism within you and nothing in this world can stop your partner from getting excited.

In fact, adult lingerie is one of the most effective tools to arouse excitement in your partner if things have just got stagnated for sometime. Kinky underwear and sexy bras can make him drool and bring back the passion that he had when he met you for the first time.

They can easily spice up your life in a unique way! So if you are one of those people, who still wear the old fashioned, ordinary, trashy undergarments all the time but are really eager to try out something new and exciting, then it is time for you to switch over to adult lingerie. They will not just change the way you look but also the ay you feel at present. They will rekindle the flame of eroticism in your life and help you to reinvent yourself in a very special way!

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